Are you dating ready?
Sometimes, life throws you lemons, but you’re not quite ready to make lemonade. This is important to recognise, especially with online dating, since you need to be in the right head space to successfully date.
If you’ve had no luck with dating apps and you feel like Alan Sugar eternally searching for your (romantic) apprentice, you’re not alone. There’s more than 15 million single people in the UK – that’s a lot of love to go around!
When the time is right to return to the dating scene, you’ll want to give yourself the best shot of meeting a compatible partner. But how do you know the time is right? Here’s four tell-tale signs, that you’re ready for online dating again…
Grief is part of the natural process of getting over your ex. There will come a day when you no longer cry over them, their name no longer lingers in your address book, and small tokens fail to remind you of them. And when this day comes, you know you’re finally ready to move on.
Sense of clarity
If you feel like you’re in a good place in life, that you have a sense of clarity about who you are and who you want to be with, this is a great sign. Being at peace with yourself, and knowing what you want will help you get there quicker. Congrats, you’re one step closer to signing up to online dating!
Here’s the big difference. If the thought of dating apps fills you with dread then swipe right – you’re not ready. If on the other hand, the prospect of meeting someone new overwhelms you with excitement, you’re clearly ready to date again.
You believe in a thing called love!
If you still believe in the magic of love and still hold out that Mr or Mrs Right is out there, you will most likely find them. As Roald Dahl once wrote, “Those who don’t believe in magic, will never find it.”
I’m date-ready: now what?
If you tick all the boxes and feel ready to move on, it’s time to jump back into the dating scene. But before doing so, take some time to mentally prepare yourself. Here’s a few things you can do to ease yourself back into the game:
- Overhaul your social media. That’s right, go through old photos of your previous relationships and review if they’re appropriate to stay, or not. At the same time, use the opportunity to delete any people that no longer deserve a place in your black book of contacts, yes that includes your exes, unless you’re on friendly (non-romantic) terms.
- Find the right online app for you. Chances are that online dating has moved on since you were last single. Today, there’s plenty of forward-thinking dating apps and sites dedicated to finding long-term love. Take the time to find one that’s compatible with your values.
- Remind yourself of all your good points. This can be tough if you’re fixated on the ‘failures’ of past relationships. Take some time to acknowledge that not all relationships are meant to last and it was no failing from either side. In learning to love again you’ll need to be receptive to attention, this will be easier if you feel you deserve it, and trust us – you do.
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